Dear Nora,
We are officially two months into this adventure. It seems to go by so quickly for me, but to put it in perspective: By the time you are 18 years old, you will have already lived for 216 months, and with many, many more months and years to come. So this is truly only the beginning, my love.

New this month is smiling. You began cracking what I called “starter smiles” around five weeks old, but they graduated into full-fledged, beautiful, crinkle-faced smiles when you were exactly six weeks old. Now, we can’t get enough of them. I’d say that the majority of my and Daddy’s time with you is spent trying to make you smile. Not a bad way to live life, is it?
Your “happy place” is your changing table, oddly enough. It seems that even when you are cranky, and even when you are feeling very serious, we can put you on the changing table and you become happy. You kick your legs and move your head back and forth and flash smiles at us.

Sometimes, I’ll be holding you as I’m doing something—maybe grabbing something in the kitchen, throwing laundry in, or picking your outfit for the day—and I’ll suddenly hear this little happy sound come from you. It’s almost like a little giggle. I’ll look at you to find you smiling from ear to ear at me. It makes my heart melt.
Oh, and as wonderful as it is to be able to see your full smile unobstructed, there is something that is just too cute about seeing a big smile peeking out from behind a pacifier.

You’ve also learned the opposite of smiling—you have learned how to frown! It’s more like a pout, actually. You stick your lower lip out and it is the most pitiful thing I have ever seen. I know for sure you will be using that face as a weapon against us in your future. When you wear that expression, I’m pretty sure I’d do just about anything to make you happy again.

You are so much more alert this month. You stare at Daddy and me, or whoever is holding you, and you take in every sound, every facial expression, every movement. You stare at lights and colors and objects (like the camera!), and it’s almost as if I can actually see your brain absorbing it all.
We’ve been trying to get you to enjoy tummy time, so you can continue to strengthen your neck muscles, learn how to push up on your arms, and eventually develop the skills to roll over. The trouble is that when it comes to tummy time, you’re just a teensy bit lazy. You’ll hold your head up high for a few seconds, but then you push your face into the blanket and lie there. You’re such a little stinker.

We are still going strong with breastfeeding. It used to take some effort to get you latched sometimes, but now you go right on like you know exactly what you’re doing (and you do). Although I’ll admit to multi-tasking during your feedings sometimes, I do love to take some quiet time to just focus on you and stare at your little features while you feed. One thing you’ve started to do that I especially love is that you “hold on” with your hands. When you put your tiny hand on my chest, it’s like you are trying to make sure that I’m not going anywhere. It’s such a small gesture, but I love it so much.

For the most part, you have continued to be a fantastic sleeper. Seriously, we are so blessed. This month, we’ve worked to try to figure out what works best for you. We’ve made several adjustments in how we handle your sleep, most of which have been driven by your “signals.” Several weeks ago, you started on a kick where you slept through the night—like 10-11 p.m. to 7-8 a.m. It was awesome, and we were ecstatic. But as soon as that started to seem routine, you changed things up on us. You started to wake up frequently throughout the night—not to eat or anything, but just to make grunting noises and move around a lot. It was frustrating for you and for us. I could tell you weren’t as well rested as you should be.

For help, I started reading a book called Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. I discovered that perhaps we were doing you a disservice by waiting to put you to bed at our bedtime. We started being more observant of your sleep patterns throughout the day, and began paying more attention to the signs of sleepiness. As a result of those things, we started putting you to bed at 9 p.m. After a few days of that, you seemed to want to go to bed even earlier, so we moved it up to 8:30. Now, you rarely make it to 8:15! Not only have you been going to bed earlier, but you’ve been sleeping longer. Your current routine is to go to bed at 8:15 p.m., wake at 6 a.m. for a feeding in our bed, then go back to sleep until 8-9 a.m. So, yeah… you’re a rockstar. Still, you’re very young, so I’m already expecting you to throw us another curveball and switch things up again soon. We’ll see what happens!

Last weekend, I packed away my maternity clothes. It made me a little sad to fold everything and put it away in a box. As much as I love having you on the outside, there was also something so very special about having you on the inside. Even more sad, though, was that I had to pack away some of your clothes. I started with all of your little Halloween-themed outfits and jammies, and I was so sad to look at how tiny they are and know that you will never wear them again. I’m afraid that all of your newborn-sized clothes will not be far behind. You are definitely outgrowing them, Angel Face. Cue the tears for Mommy!

Tomorrow, we will take you to the pediatrician’s office to get you weighed and measured. You’ll also receive a batch of vaccinations, which I’m not looking forward to at all. When you got the Hepatitis B vaccine, the scream you let out was so sad that it nearly made me cry, too. Thankfully, it was only for a few seconds, and you were easily comforted—after all, it was only one shot. But tomorrow? Yikes, I’m scared! At least I know you will not remember all of this.

You *LOVE* baths (especially the part where I wash your hair). You kick your legs in the water and you will hang out in there as long as we let you. Your eyes are lightening and becoming more blue. You could stare at the owl mobile above your swing for hours. You make the cutest little sounds (I can’t wait for you to start “talking” to us). You are starting to find things with your hands and grip onto them. Your crazy toes continue to make me giggle on a daily basis. You rarely cry. You are the world’s best snuggler.
Simply, you are the greatest joy in our lives.

Daddy and I often look at you and say to each other, “I just love her so much.” It’s overwhelming sometimes, the love we feel for you. And it only seems to get stronger with time.
Happy 2 Month “Birthday,” Nora Grace.
With all of the love in my heart,
Mommy
I took 12 weeks off of work for maternity leave. I have only 3.5 weeks left.
Now that I am within the final third of my all-day, everyday time with Nora, I am shaking in my boots. I always knew that I’d be going back to work after a baby, but now that it’s becoming a reality ohmygodIsodon’twantto. I dread the day I have to leave her at the sitter’s and go to work all day. Dread it.
One of my friends told me that the day she had to leave her daughter for the first time was one of the worst days of her life. Another friend told me that for the first few weeks, I will feel an actual physical ache all day long, the whole time I’m separated from Nora.
Well, now… doesn’t that all sound fun?
Today, I had to go into work for the morning for a special meeting. Michael was able to arrange it so he could work from home for half the day, so he stayed home with the babe while I took off to the office. I had to leave the house at 7:30 a.m., and I was back a little bit after noon. Four and a half hours, people. That’s all.
Still, last night, as I was lying in bed, I stared at my little sweetheart in her bed and felt sadness in the pit of my stomach. It wasn’t that I was worried about her–she was going to be with her daddy, after all–it was just that I knew how much I was going to miss her. And we’re talking about four and a half hours!
Oh, man… the real thing is going to hurt.
On December 6, I fear my heart will break into a million little pieces.
We’ve all heard about how wonderful an idea it is to read to a baby.
Even before they are born, we’re encouraged to read to them. Once they’re here, we are told to limit TV time, and to surround a child with books instead. We aim to instill in them a love of reading. We’re raised to see “bedtime stories” as not only beneficial in terms of development, but as a time to bond and connect with our children.
Books are memories.
I don’t know about you, but I still remember my parents reading me bedtime stories when I was small. I remember the Mercer Mayer, Berenstain Bears, Clifford, Amelia Bedelia, and other books we collected.
When we were a little bit older, I remember the three of us kids piling in my mom’s bed and she would read us a chapter or two of a novel (I specifically recall her reading Matilda) before telling us to go to bed. We had to wait until the next night for the story to continue.
In elementary school, I consumed Babysitters Club books as if they were going out of style. In middle school, I read Christopher Pike and R.L. Stine, among other things.
I could talk for hours about all of the books I remember reading while I was growing up.
Books are memories.
It wasn’t until I was about to become a parent myself that I realized that, in order to build a collection for my own child–in order to build her a little library–we would have to spend a small frickin’ fortune.
Children’s books are expensive, y’all. Like really expensive when you add them all up.
Board books with six, maybe eight pages? You know, the classics? Expect those to cost you anywhere between $8 and $13.
A cheap, paperback Mercer Mayer story about Christmas? I saw it priced at $7 in Target the other day.
These things take five minutes to read, and yet they often charge $1 or more per page. PER PAGE. They do this because they know that we will pay.
We will pay for Nora to have a bookshelf full of books from which to choose.
We will pay in order to create the memories of holding her in our arms as we flip through the pages of what will become her favorites.
We will pay in order to have the moments in which I watch her as she drifts to sleep, as I shed a tear reading Someday, or Love You Forever.
We will pay. And they know that.
Those bastards.
We’re planning a big day around here!
A day on which our daughter will wear a gorgeous white dress and enter a church…
Okay, let’s get real. IT’S A BAPTISM. (I’m assuming you already knew that. Duh.)
Nora’s “big day” is scheduled for November 14 and we’re really looking forward to it. A few weeks back, Nora and I went shopping for her gown, and although we haven’t put it on her, the thought of her in it is so stinkin’ cute.
I also put together an invitation design, had them printed, and sent them off a week or so ago. Wanna see?

Can I tell you how challenging it is to get a baby to grip onto something and keep their arm out, even while they’re sleeping? I ended up taking literally 100 photos of her hand and the rosary just to get ONE to use. Sheesh! I’m super happy with how it turned out, though. The rosary was my great-grandmother’s (the same grandmother for whom we chose Nora’s middle name).
I didn’t think I would be this excited to have my child Baptized, but there really is something very special about it. Plus, it’s the first time Nora will ever be truly celebrated with an event–the ceremony, the party… it’s all for her! :)
I’m sure we’ll soon be sharing pics of her special day!
WARNING: This post is photo-heavy. I can’t help it; we took more than 200 photos yesterday.
We don’t get any trick-or-treaters in our neighborhood, so we went over to my mom’s to celebrate the holiday and get Nora and Hunter together in their costumes.
Hunter was showing a lot of interest in his baby cousin this time around, and he kept sitting on the floor and looking at us like, “Aren’t you going to let me hold her?” So we… let him “hold” her.

And suddenly he wasn’t too sure about it anymore.

He really does love to look at her, though. It’s so cute.
We also carved pumpkins…





After dinner, we put the kids in their costumes…




And then we had to hang out in the garage for a while because my mom’s carbon monoxide detector went off and my brother discovered a gas leak in the furnace in the basement. (He happens to be a certified HVAC technician, so he was able to fix it.)

A bottle in the garage? Nora didn’t seem to mind.
Once things were safe in the house again, we went back in and posed the kids together for a few pics in their costumes. This is how I imagine it went between the two of them:


“Oh. Hey Nora. Can you believe these costumes they’ve put us in?”

“Mmmmm. Snickers.”

“Want one?”

“Maybe I can put it on top of your head.”

“Guys, she doesn’t seem interested.”

“Let’s see what else I can find.”

“What are you in the mood for? Caramel? Peanut butter? Coconut? Give me something to work with here.”

“How about a Snickers AND a Kit Kat?”

“Alright, I was going to keep this one for myself, but… how about a Reeses?”

“Wait. Where did Grandma go with the big bowl? Why is she giving candy to those kids at the door?”
After that, we went out for a little trick-or-treating (only to three or four houses). It was totally SNOWING.



Soon, it was time to head home so we could get Nora ready for bed.

She was in quite a good mood, though. Must’ve been all that candy.
All in all, it was a pretty good Baby’s First Halloween. :)
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I'm Heather. I'm 33 and have been married to Michael for seven years. Together, we have two beautiful little girls we love more than anything, and a miniature dachshund who drives us crazy. I'm a full-time working mom who has very little time for my own "stuff" these days, like home improvement, cooking/baking, cake decorating, and photography. Despite the team not making the playoffs since 1999, I'm STILL a Buffalo Bills fan, which I think speaks to my loyalty AND sense of humor. I can't wait to pick up the pace with travel again some day... you know, when we're done being ruled by tiny fists. Welcome to my blog.The Address
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